August 16, 2023
Happiness As a Whole Being
If we look at our inner utmost desire, we could see that our dreams are not so different. We all share ONE common goal: Happiness for self and for the people we love.
More than a century ago Helen Keller wrote: “To me the only satisfactory definition of happiness is wholeness.” Drawing on Keller’s words, I describe happiness as the experience of whole being.Some people enjoy their lives no matter what happens, while others cannot find happiness regardless of what they do and how hard they try, most of us fall somewhere in between. The difference in people lives is not what they face is what they do with what they face. I believe that Happiness is not a goal in itself, but rather it is the by-product of a life well lived. Regardless of what a well-lived life means to you, I trust that one of the most crucial elements to live well is to have SPIRE mastery. Based on the latest research in neuroscience and positive psychology, FIVE elements of wellbeing that makes us whole that could potentially lead to happiness and together they form the acronym SPIRE. SPIRE focuses on the whole person, which encompasses spiritual, physical, intellectual, relational, and emotional well-being. Happiness becomes thus multi-dimensional. By taking into account each element, you can enhance well-being in everyday life, and especially in the face of adversity.
“S” of SPIRE: Spiritual Wellbeing refers to the importance of finding a sense of purpose and meaning in life, as well as to elevating ordinary experiences into extraordinary ones through mindful presence.A sense of meaning and purpose stems from belonging too and serving something bigger than yourself. There are various ways to enable a sense of meaning, such as religion, family, science, politics, work, community, social causes, gratitude practices etc… In order to make life and work more enjoyable regardless of your circumstances, you need to actively seek and create meaning and pleasure in whatever you are doing because creating the right conditions in life or at work lies within you. In addition, being mindful and savoring life in the present moment is another way to enhance your spiritual wellbeing.
“P” of SPIRE: Physical Wellbeing: Our psychological and the physical entities are connected and interdependent; happiness is not conditional on either the mind or the body, but rather on both. This includes taking care of your Body balance, Energy management, Physical activity, Stress management, Sleep and nutrition.
“I” of SPIRE: Intellectual Wellbeing refers to engaging in deep meaning and opening to new experiences. It is important that you engage in activities that support your learning and growth. Everyone is different and we all find enjoyment in different things whether it is playing an instrument, playing a sport, dancing, working on an interesting project at work or even adopting a hobby. Think about subjects that fascinate you, skills you want to build, read, listen to a podcast, take a webinar or seek out mentors or experts from whom you can learn more.
“R” of SPIRE: Relational Wellbeing refers to nurturing healthy connections with others and oneself Relationships are fundamental to well-being and the number one predictor of happiness is the quantity and quality of time you spend with people you care about and those who care about you. Humans are social beings that thrive for connection, love, intimacy. Building positive relationships with your parents, siblings, peers, and friends enables your capacity for love, compassion, kindness, empathy, teamwork, cooperation, self-sacrifice, etc. Having strong relationships gives you support in difficult times. Moreover, cultivating a healthy relationship with yourself is essential if you want to enjoy healthy relationships with others.
“E” of SPIRE: Emotional Wellbeing refers to feeling all emotions and reaching towards resilience and optimism
I don’t want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them.
– Oscar Wilde said that and he is right.
Using and enjoying your emotions means to give yourself the permission to be human and experience the full extent of human emotions. So please stop trying to be happy all the time thinking that it would be the best way to deny or push away what you might be feeling at the present. Bending your feelings to meet others and society expectations is not a sign of strength. Just allow yourself to truly feel, it just makes you more human, and believe that Vulnerability is power.
Incorporating the SPIRE elements supports you in reaching higher levels of Wholebeing. I believe that true happiness is a choice which resides within each one of us. Our mindset, our perspective to the world, our actions and our thoughts impact our overall happiness level. To live a really happy life, be in total alignment with your values, follow your passions and do the things you love, improve your relationships, live always in appreciation and gratitude, love yourself, accept your body, grow your mind and embrace life more.
Cheers to your happiness!
Linda Chaccour – Founder Emerge