September 17, 2023
If You Want a Fulfilling Relationship, Where Do You Start?
“The quality of your life depends on the quality of your relationships.”
Anthony Robbins said that and he was right! Everybody wants loyalty, consistency and someone who won’t quit, but everybody forgets that to get that person, you have to be that person.
Whether you are in a relationship or single, whether you want to create an extraordinary relationship be it with your partner, friends, family or with your colleagues, YOU must start with yourself. Your eventual relationship becomes a reality when you can really love yourself first before truly loving others.
Great relationships don’t come naturally, they need to be created, pursued and protected in every waking moment in your life.
So what if you could ignite more communication, more understanding and more sense of purpose in your relationships starting today?
Here are 5 tips to create the energy you need for your relationships to be revitalized:
Step up into the giving mode: be mindful of the needs of others, offer kindness and appreciation, give without expectations, and adopt an attitude of gratitude towards your loved ones.
Make a list of the activities / hobbies / projects that you can share together with friends, colleagues or family members that boost your energy and bring you closer and schedule them for at least once a week.
Go beyond your rules and personal emotions, demanding that others fit in your world, instead focus on the qualities in others and initiate the feelings of compassion and learn how to listen without judgement.
Improve self-care skills, including diet, exercise and sleep.
Take responsibility for your own happiness and your emotional well-being. Make sure that you have personal time to rejuvenate yourself, connect with your hobbies so you can create aliveness when you are present with others.
Reach out and touch your loved ones more often, studies show that hugging your loved ones or even just holding hands lowers your blood pressure and heart rate and increases oxytocin (stress reduction hormone).
Relationships are the heart of happiness. “Rich and satisfying relationships” are the only external factors that will move your happiness score from “quite happy” to “very happy.” Relationships are very important to your brain’s feeling of happiness. Make sure you surround yourself and your couple with happy and supportive friendships. Give your best time, energy and attention to your most important relationships and remind yourself daily that happiness is in the connections you make, in the friendships you keep and in the love that exists and you nurture with others.
Take some time to reflect on the key relationships and friendships in your life. Ask yourself Do I have meaningful relationships in my life? Do they bring me fun, positivity and growth?
Do I hang out with people who lift me up or put me down? Surround yourself with people who give you opportunities to grow. And remember that you are the average of the five (5) persons you spend time with so CHOOSE WELL.
Keep choosing Happiness, and Happiness will keep choosing you back.
Linda Chaccour